Friendship communication pt.1

Communication is key to relationships, let alone friendships. Without having a way to communicate with the other person, how does the relationship stay alive? Magic? Probably not. Sometimes, when things get rough, communication dies out really hard, really fast. And it hurts like hell. It feels like he/she just vanished from your circle, and he/she does not want to talk or have anything to do with you anymore. The worst part is, a couple hours, days, weeks, or months later, he/she comes back, and talk to you like nothing ever happened. It is like your relationship isn't worth an explanation of why there was a cut-off of communication. 

Communication can be done through many ways, texting, calling, face-to-face, emailing, or even physically mailing. 

Texting is a tough one, since you can't really portray what the other person is feelign unless you know them enough to realize if their mood has suddenly changed into something else. Texting is a difficult way of communication for me, because the opposite person may have a really hard time reading what I am trying to say, since there is no tone or voice being heard from the words that are appearing. There are also the people who don't reply because they just really don't want to, like you're not important enough for a response. Texting is not a form of communication because of past experiences.

Calling is better than texting, since you are able to hear the tone of the person's voice, and possibly hear their laugh, and joke around with random accents and such. Calling is way of communication I don't really use since I don't use my phone to call much, and to me, my voice sounds really weird after being transferred through an electronic. What I want to experience, is being able to talk to someone for hours on end on the phone, and not care about anything really. I want to be able to hear his/her voice and just experience a teenage life, through a phone.

Face-to-face, my favourite yet least favourite type of communication, the one where you can see and feel everything, whether it is happiness or sadness. Although sometimes, being face-to-face can lead to more conflicts in the friendship, it can also show more sides to the other person that they may not have known before. With this way of communication, I believe it can eliminate a lot of cons to a friendship because it will ensure that both people will (hopefully) show their true feelings, and talk it out. Or, turning the table, someone decides not to, and the friendship goes extremely downhill. Face-to-face communication is a great way to spend life, it is what creates a social life anyway.

Emailing, a very formal way of communication I would say, this is what people use to contact socially if there is some problem with the other ways of communication. With emailing, you are able to write a whole email about the events that happened to you in the past week, or even month that you haven't talked to or seen the person. I used to email a few friends of mine, that I don't talk to anymore, I remember just typing to them almost everything that happened to me and asking for advice, and tell jokes, and such. Sometimes, when a friend is out of town, or country, using email as a communication is an efficient way in my opinion, because it gets sent almost immediately, and the other person just needs to open the email up and start reading.

Being "old-school" and mailing physical paper mails can be old-fashioned yet I kind it is the most memory-filling way. By collecting the letters that were sent, you can cherish the moments of reading them over and over again, even if the person is not in your life anymore. I never got to mail a letter to a friend, because none of them lived so far away that communication in any other way was impossible, but I do wish I can. It is something that I would like to experience and remember until I lose that letter.

Without talking to another person, a friendship cannot be made, thus there is nothing going on between the two people. I think, in many friendships with an interval of time away from each other, a time to catch up on everything is needed. 

**I honestly don't know how to end this.

High school

Being a sophomore and going to junior next year in high school, I sometimes get scared of how the future will be. But I then think of the present. And try not to worry about it anymore. High school is a stressful part of life. People are changing because of puberty, friends, family, everything. 

Puberty affects teenagers, everyone should know. Some people may get it later, or even sooner than the average group. 

Friends, people come and people go. The people who were extremely close to you may not even say a word to you in your next year at high school. With only four years in high school with your so-called friends. Some may leave earlier than others, and some may break at graduation. But some, they make it through high school, through everything, and stay as friends all life. 

Family. High school is when family bonds start to change. People get ticked off very easily. Like myself. I can get irritated easily by my family. Especially during the May-June rush at my school. I hate it when my sister or brother bothers me when I'm in my room. Even if I'm not doing work. I like my peace. But sadly, that gets disturbed a lot. 

End this sophomore year with a bang. Anything you end up not doing this year, you may feel regrets. Because you didn't do it, rather than you have. Everything last year is not the same as this year. Friend circles change. Relationships change. Feelings change. And attitudes change. How it changes is up to you. Things may seem bad now; a bad mark on an assignment or test, but in the future. That 1% off of perfect will not affect you anymore. Think on a larger scale. Think about the good things. But don't live in the future. Live in the present. 

Reality

Recently I've fallen on to this post on the internet. It talks about how we shouldn't be worried about saving the earth. But to save ourselves. It talks about how we will sooner or later demolish like the dinosaurs, and earth will replenish again. This makes me think. It makes me wonder if we are really alive. If everything that is happening, really happening. 

I sometimes get thoughts about how the future me will be. When I get older, get married, have kids, get ill, and eventually pass. I wonder if all of this will even happen. I wonder if this is real. If the things I'm doing, the things I say, the things I see and the things I hear are real. Sometimes. Reality is scary. Sometimes. Overthinking takes over, and it becomes much more terrifying. I start to picture how this is all a lie. I'm just in a dream of some sort, and eventually I will wake up and I will not be who I am today, tomorrow, or even yesterday. 

Since there are many conflicts regarding to how the earth is slowly dying, I wonder how long we still have here. How long til the world blows up into a million pieces. Or how long til someone who has great power, cannot take how the world is anymore, and decides to kill each and every one of us. People will start to die and chaos will arise. 

I believe I am more rather pessimistic than optimistic. My thoughts in this post back up my theory. It may be a bad thing. But that is just how I am. These thoughts float around in my mind from time to time.